Saturday, November 29, 2008
read xiong's blog and had some running thoughts.. i guess no one enters a relationship hoping that it will fail.. but after these years i do have some form of mental preparation that the current relationship might terminate.. Yet I have never believed that merely one or two relationships are really sufficient in life to lead to marriage.. not that i feel we should enjoy a variety of company or stuff like tat.. but tat in failing one or even 2 relationships come invaluable experience that prevents the next one from failing.. n sometimes on hindsight, we really realise tat the breakup is beneficial for both parties perhaps.. However, i do agree with xiong tat couples will always have differences.. so the determinant of how long a relationship lasts is really the capacity of our tolerance and ability to compromise..
in any case.. i have learnt quite a great deal from my lecturer this sem.. thought surpression.. telling someone not to think of a white bear or an ex-flame provoked the person to think of him or her more.. so when friends come to you teling u they cant stop thinking of someone or somethg, the worst thing to do is to tell them to try to stop thinking.. scientifically proven.. studies have also found that the rejector undergoes higher negativity than the rejected.. n i would guess the person initiatg the breakup might feel worse too.. so dun hate them too much perhaps cuz they realli dun want to.. then again these findings are not deterministic but probabilistic, so.. uta u guys to believe..
rough times recently.. with cherylene breaking down mentally or physically almost every alternate day due to stress.. trying to encourage her that she will ged her "A"s and first class when i might lose my 2nd upper soon.. cooking noodles for her, runing errands.. n sometimes i dun understand why she does some things.. like taking the carton of apple juice out from the fridge then ask me to help her pour into the cup instead of doing it herself.. but i was glad that she was ever-forgiving for me playing basketball everyday.. n buying lots of food that i like from the supermarket.. bt i do randomly hope that she will cook for me.. or help me clean my room.. cuz sometimes like she says, i am really being the female.. n tats quite sian.. pros and cons, ups and downs, all part of a relationship.. but i always look at the up sides! ust hope exam will be over fast and cherylene will be stress free again!
exams ending on wednesday! yay!
weilie * 7:49 PM 0 rocked with me
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